When things don’t go your way?

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As grown-up, we all have the right to decide our own way of life. What we want to do, want to wear, whom to be friends with, who should be my partner and everything else.

India is a wired place when it comes to personal space, emotional well-being, relationships, taking life decisions. Everything is based on what others think.

How do you feel when your friends don’t understand what you are going through?

How does it feel when your family imposes their decisions on your life?

It’s very easy for someone to put their ideas in your head and expect you to follow. If you are one of those who won’t accept it, will be labeled a rebel.

I don’t mind being called a rebel. But the problem is you either cut all ties with everyone and move ahead to live life on your terms or keep listening to their constant complains about what you should be doing with life.

I have seen my generation feeling totally lost and clueless about what to do in such a situation?

We want to set ourselves free but are still tied with some unseen chain of other's expectations.

It’s hard to live life like this forever. I used to think once I am financially independent, things will change. I no longer would have to listen to my family, neighbors, or friends. But that never happened.

I am still carrying this mindset that I must do what they are asking. Saying no is the hardest thing for me.

Deep within I know that I won’t be happy but don’t have the courage to disappoint my family.

All I wish for a life where you don’t have to choose between family and yourself.

At times it feels that running away from everything would be the best way out but I am not going to escape from my problems.

I am going to keep trying to figure out ways until it works for me.

My idea to deal with it right now is-

1. Not react to everything people say.
2. Listen what others have to say but there is no compulsion to act on it.
3. Accept the fact, its you who can make things possible. When I learn to say no, people will learn to hear that.
4. I don’t have to wait for other people’s approval to live my own life.
5. Accept that there is no right or wrong way of living life

What would you suggest someone who is going through situation like this?

Let me know in the comments.